slow sex
experience
The Slow Sex Experience is about:
- breaking patterns and deconditioning our sexual behavior
- learning how to access our ‘full body yes’ and our ‘full body no’
- setting and expressing boundaries in a non violent way
- figuring out what you actually like
The key is moving slowly and without goal orientation
An important tool we work with is communication
A new realm we explore is energetic love making combined with breath work. You are being invited to move beyond the physical body and explore:
- How we can touch each other without using physical touch
- How we can move and play with energies
- How we can use our breath as guide and guardian
The Slow Sex Experience is an eye opening and healing experience for everyone who is longing for creating a new kind of sexuality.
A sexuality that is about:
- deep intimacy and connection to the higher source
- cultivating creativity and enhancing life energy
You are highly encouraged to take the tools you will be provided with out of the context of sexuality and to translate them into your everyday life. It will transform all your relations!
What is going to happen?
We start and finish the Slow Sex Experience all together. Once we have opened the circle, latecomers are unfortunately not allowed to join the experience any more (unless they have made a special arrangement with the facilitator before and the group has been informed). It’s in your own best interest to arrive 15 min before the event starts in order to settle into the space, go to the toilet, have a cup of tea etc.
After the guided mediation and a breathwork practice we flow organically into the exercises. Some of them are on an energetic level, others are hands on. Every exercise is merely an invitation. You decide for yourself how far you want to go, how ‘naked’ you want to get (underwear stays on!). You can say ‘no’ at any time and you are encouraged to explore different variations in each exercise. You are empowered to create the experience that is appropriate for yourself in that moment with that person.
We close the experience all together in a circle in which everyone has the possibility to express whatever is relevant to share.
LOVE JAM (please check if your event is followed by a LOVE JAM)
The LOVE JAM is a free flowing sex positive space in which you can put into practise what you’ve learned in the workshop. You can either repeat some of the couple exercises, exchange massages, dance, journal, do yoga or simply hang out, have some tea and snacks and heart warming conversations.
We respect during the whole jam the ‘underpants on’ policy.
The space will be held collectively.
Everyone is responsible for their own experience.
If you are new to sex positive spaces we recommend moving extra slowly.
Practicing Slow Sex I’ve learned to more deeply listen to the wisdom of body. My body knows: do I feel sexy or tender? What is the connection with someone else? Is it sensual or intimate or sexual? Or all in one? And knowing and feeling that, what do I really want (or not want) if I am honest?
Sharing a slow sex space with others helps me to fine tune my senses. As we explore together, I discover something new with each encounter. Sometimes it’s amazing, sometimes it's confronting, but always revealing of where I am in my journey to live my sexuality and life power with integrity and from a place of love.
Katjalisa creates spaces for these explorations to unfold in a safe and yet daring way. She diffuses shame and guilt so participants can genuinely connect to what sexuality really is: the beautiful source of life. She encourages and enables us to go deeper, yet teaches the skills to hone our inner knowing: what is my boundary right now right here with this person?
Through multiple workshops I feel enriched and empowered. I own my sensuality and sexuality in a new way. I honor my inner yes and no. I have language to share what I like. I (more and more) dare to ask for it. And all while keeping my pants on.
- Gerard Breekman
Katjalisa is a masterful guide who aided me on my path of exploring the depths of my sexuality. Depths I always deep down knew were there, but that lied waiting under the surface to be explored and touched.
Through a yoni course and the Slow Sex evenings, it feels like a space within me has widened. To dare, to heal and nurture my own sexual energy. And with that, a transformative power has arisen that is influencing many aspects of my life. In the yoni course, Katjalisa created a safe and playful environment for a group of women to become yoni sisters. And share their feelings and thoughts around everything that is connected to this powerful, but often neglected, organ and energy source.
In the Slow Sex workshops, physical practice is key. To bodily experience, and through that, to understand and know: what you want, what you need, and what not. Sometimes lighthearted, sometimes deeply emotional. But always a continuous practice. And with a few of these workshops I feel I have learned more about my sensuality, desires and sexual energy than in a long time before. Katjalisa is a playful, strong, completely honest and inspirational medicine woman, whose antidote for today’s fastness is SLOW THE FUCK DOWN. And the result is truly divine.
- Barbara Bloom
