Relationship & Intimacy Coaching

Break patterns and conditioned behavior
Learn how to communicate non-violently
Cultivate self love and self care
Enhance intimacy with yourself and your partner
Unblock stuck energy and harness life energy
Re-define sexuality

Relating is one of the most complex and challenging arts to master.

Like any other art it requires a regular, dedicated and committed practice.
Especially when we are relating with a loved one, our (trauma) triggers can be activated.
The closer we relate, the closer we get to our core business.
We all got a whole army of high security guards protecting what is dearest to us ~
the story we’ve created about ourselves (and others).
If someone dares to come too close, you might fight, fly, freeze or please.
Within an instant, your guardians turn into brave soldiers fighting on the front line to protect the vulnerable heart (being totally passive or in complete silence is also a way of fighting).
Again and again you end up in the same old situation. You are so bored, frustrated and exhausted. Yet, you don’t seem to be able to step out of the story ~
because you can’t change what you can’t see.

In every core relationship, we will come across triggers.

Whether that relationship is romantic or professional. Once we understand the reason behind our triggers and which part within us takes over when we get triggered, we will be able to cultivate mutual understanding and will become more compassionate for each other's actions and reactions. Once we start seeing things, we can slowly start changing them. Becoming aware of our own survival strategies and of those of the people we closely relate with, is the first step for healing. It is a constant practice to take a step back from our own narrative when we are about to repeat old patterns and strategies. The more we do it, the better we get at it and the less support we will need from the outside. Yes, it is a lot of goddam work! But it is highly rewarding and deeply satisfying.

The more you understand what and who drives you and why, the more you can become the writer of your own story and start living a life that is more aligned with your sacred contract. Stepping into your full potential is empowering and super sexy. Your eyes will spark, your aura will shine, your mind will be calm & clear, your soul will sing and swing, your heart will dance and your sexual energy will flow again.

In the very first place, you do the work for yourself. From there, it will have an energetic ripple effect affecting all your relations. First your primary ones but at the end your inner work contributes to the healing of all your ancestral lines and to the healing of the collective.

Katjalisa’s one on one sessions are for individuals or couples that want to hack their script and update their story. She skilfully combines her vast variety of tools that she has acquired along the way through a lot of (in person) research and in depth study within the fields of somatic, psycho and trauma education and sexual anthropology. Every session is embedded within breath~and bodywork and contains elements of the Slow Sex practise and the polarity work of the Voice Dialogue. Her way of working is unique, intuitive, surprising, refreshing, creative and absolutely out of the box. She is personally mentored by Francine Oomen, Dutch bestselling author, intergenerational trauma expert and certified Voice Dialogue coach.

Time investment per in person session: 2-3 hours + 2-3 hours HomePlay per week 

Energy Investment in person for a single session + After Care: 350 Euros (at my place in Portugal. In Amsterdam I calculate on top either 50 Euros travel costs if we do it at your place or 75 Euros if we do it at the studio)

If you commit after the first session to book at least 2 more follow up sessions, the follow up sessions are 300 Euros

Time Investment per online session + After Care: 1,5-2 hours + 2-3 hours HomePlay per week 

Energy Investment online: 175 Euros

If your financial situation doesn't allow you to pay my suggested price please reach out to me in person and we discuss how we can meet each others needs. 

A series of at least 3 sessions is recommended  & the commitment to actively engage in the customised HomePlay to create transformative change.

Wanna experience a real life changing deep dive with me? Come to the Algarve and stay on the organic farm where I live with my family. You can choose to embedd the deep dive sessions in a community Soul Strip Practice and in a Slow Sex Practice if you wish. Then I will plan my group events around your stay. We have built an active community around our work which makes that special offer possible. If group experiences are not your thing we can, of course, also just work one on one.

Feel free to hop on a free call with me for an inquiry. 

Send me a message on WhatsApp or on Telegram to directly make an appointment: +31 624 555 311


I have been working with Katjalisa for only a couple of months now, and it is incredible how much she has helped me. She has the ability to very quickly grasp the essence of what is going on within me and to see the bigger picture of it all. I feel deeply understood by her and I can open up completely in her presence. She hel[ped me to get in touch with my vulnerability, to look into old wounds, to see my strategies, triggers and patterns. Only in a short period of time I got stronger, wiser and happier by working with Katjalisa. Her help has been invaluable for my personal growth. Moreover, she was really there for me when I was going through a tough period. Besides the one on one sessions, she offers amazing after care. She deeply cares about me and my process. With her, you’re not facing the problems alone anymore.



“Just as you can pick out the voice of a loved one in the tumult of a noisy room, or spot your child's smile in a sea of faces, intimate connection allows recognition in an all-too-often anonymous world. This sense of connection arises from a special kind of discrimination, a search image that comes from a long time spent looking and listening. Intimacy gives us a different way of seeing, when visual acuity is not enough.”

Robin Wall Kimmerer

Braiding Sweetgrass: Indigenous Wisdom, Scientific Knowledge, and the Teachings of Plants


For one year, my partner and I have been working with Katjalisa. It has been the most rewarding year in our relationships. For a long time we were stuck in each other's patterns, triggering each other and not having the tools to get out of this spiral. 

As a result of the 1-1 sessions and guided homeplay with Katjalisa, we have a much deeper understanding of ourselves and each other and have been able to carefully build a much more nourishing relationship. We are no longer stuck and feel closer than ever. I am very grateful for Katjalisa her open, playful, honest guidance.