Relationship & Intimacy Coaching

Like any other art it requires a regular, dedicated and committed practice.
Especially when we are relating with a loved one, our (trauma) triggers can be activated.
The closer we relate, the closer we get to our core business.
We all got a whole army of high security guards protecting what is dearest to us ~
the story we’ve created about ourselves (and others).
If someone dares to come too close, you might fight, fly, freeze or please.
Within an instant, your guardians turn into brave soldiers fighting on the front line to protect the vulnerable heart (being totally passive or in complete silence is also a way of fighting).
Again and again you end up in the same old situation. You are so bored, frustrated and exhausted. Yet, you don’t seem to be able to step out of the story ~
because you can’t change what you can’t see.

Whether that relationship is romantic or professional. Once we understand the reason behind our triggers and which part within us takes over when we get triggered, we will be able to cultivate mutual understanding and will become more compassionate for each other's actions and reactions. Once we start seeing things, we can slowly start changing them. Becoming aware of our own survival strategies and of those of the people we closely relate with, is the first step for healing. It is a constant practice to take a step back from our own narrative when we are about to repeat old patterns and strategies. The more we do it, the better we get at it and the less support we will need from the outside. Yes, it is a lot of goddam work! But it is highly rewarding and deeply satisfying.

The more you understand what and who drives you and why, the more you can become the writer of your own story and start living a life that is more aligned with your sacred contract. Stepping into your full potential is empowering and super sexy. Your eyes will spark, your aura will shine, your mind will be calm & clear, your soul will sing and swing, your heart will dance and your sexual energy will flow again.

In the very first place, you do the work for yourself. From there, it will have an energetic ripple effect affecting all your relations. First your primary ones but at the end your inner work contributes to the healing of all your ancestral lines and to the healing of the collective.

Katjalisa’s one on one sessions are for individuals or couples that want to hack their script and update their story. She skilfully combines her vast variety of tools that she has acquired along the way through a lot of (in person) research and in depth study within the fields of somatic, psycho and trauma education and sexual anthropology. Every session is embedded within breath~and bodywork and contains elements of the Slow Sex practise and the polarity work of the Voice Dialogue. Her way of working is unique, intuitive, surprising, refreshing, creative and absolutely out of the box. She is personally mentored by Francine Oomen, Dutch bestselling author, intergenerational trauma expert and certified Voice Dialogue coach.