Slow Sex Massage

An in depth experience in which you actively receive
Slow Sex Magic on a somatic level.

Before we move into physical touch, there is an intake in the form of a heart share and an eye gaze: For us to connect, to clarify boundaries, for you to communicate wishes and desires as well as fears and insecurities

This moment at the beginning of the experience is absolutely crucial as we are laying the groundwork for you to feel safe within the space, in connection to me and most importantly: you within your own body which will be your trusted guide and your guardian. You are invited to ‘actively’ receive meaning you are encouraged to be as bossy as you need to be during the treatment so we can co~create an experience for you in which you can fully surrender to my touch, to my presence, to all that wants to be felt and come up. For many, this is the hardest part: expressing exactly what feels right and what doesn’t. Our social and cultural conditioning paired with our individual survival strategies (such as pleasing, freezing, fighting and flying) can make it almost impossible to come up for ourselves in the way it would serve our central self the best. Uncovering those layers will be another session (see my Life & Love Lab coaching sessions). But it’s important to be aware beforehand that this might be an issue and can potentially sabotage your experience.

Ideally, the one that is giving you a massage/ (sexual) pleasure does it naturally exactly in the way it feels perfect for you. However, the truth is that this is rarely the case. Your body is unique and deserves to be explored and discovered with full presence, respect and curiosity. The more feedback you give the more likely it is that you will receive the ‘perfect’ experience. With ‘perfect’ I mean a ‘full body yes’ experience. Feedback does not only have to be verbal. Feedback can also be given through sound and movement. Basically anything that helps me to give you what you really desire.

The massage starts slow, soft and sensual.

First only energetic touch then fingertips followed by more intense full body strokes and pressure, flowing again into more soft and sensual touch. Elements of Thai Yoga Massage will be incorporated in order to stretch the deeper tissues, work with energy lines and to align your spine The massage is a contact dance between the receiver (you) and the giver (me). Your body is being moved through different layers of sensations and energies guided by the rhythm of our breaths and our heart beats. Parts of the massage will be oil based. Other props such as feathers, stones, ropes, food etc can be brought into the experience if mutually desired.

The massage is a one way street. Roles are clearly defined.

Touch happens only from the giver to the receiver. The receiver is encouraged to indulge in pleasure and is invited to embrace possible arousal whereas the giver stays centered with the focus on the experience of the other. The giver does not pursue personal pleasure. If an attraction is mutually sensed the best is to have a share about it as soon as possible in order to clear the energy and to clarify roles. In case of violation of this agreement from the receiver, the massage can be ended immediately by the giver. There will be no refund. 

The giver might remove certain layers of clothes for practical reasons. The underpants of the giver stay on the whole time. The receiver on the other hand is invited to be fully undressed. Genitals will be touched if agreed on beforehand and will be included in the massage like any other body part. However, the focus is not on genital arousal. There is no ‘end goal’ to be reached. The intention is to explore the abundance of pleasure your body is able to experience within a warm, loving, non~judgmental, playful, sensitive environment. 

“Knowing that you love the earth changes you, activates you to defend and protect and celebrate. But when you feel that the earth loves you in return, that feeling transforms the relationship from a one-way street into a sacred bond.”

Robin Wall Kimmerer

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